92 In conclusion, a better healing will come when I find out what really happened. Did her boat capsize? Did my wife miss a step? Or something like that? Was it a strong wind or whatever? Did someone hear what her last words were? Just to know her very last words or to find out what has really happened. How rough was her trip? It is very, very important to me and I believe for my family, too. Because it’s part of our healing process, knowing what really happened. Remembering her positively and doing and thinking what she believed, because she has been quite a drive in my family. She was strong and was always pushing us forward and we always miss her. Doing what she loved most will always keep her alive and will keep us moving on with our lives.« On the February 14, 2011 Mr J.K. went on his own to the Police Headquarters in the Evros region (Orestiada and Alexandroupoli) trying to find out whether there was a woman detained under her real name. The only African woman found that match his description had drowned in the river close to the dates he had given to the authorities. He requested a DNA test and in mid-August, after sevenmonths of delay and anxiety, the answer came: the woman found dead in the river, in state of advanced decomposition, was Mr J.K.’s wife. Fenced graveyard of Sidero in October 2011 13. Lost and dead at the borders On August 30, 2011 a small fountain in Provatonas, Evros, was dedicated with a commemoration ceremony to the dead and the lost of the Greek-Turkish border. Mr. J.K. came and spoke in memory of his wife and all the other victims: »It’s a year now. You realize it has taken time to know what really happened. Now the papers have shown us the truth: that Jane is gone, having drowned on the very day of her border crossing on September 20, 2010. We accept this very reality. She is not among us anymore. But I do believe she will always live among us. She was a great lady, a mother, a wife, a daughter to her loving parents, a sister to her sisters and brothers, she is missed, but… She was great and she really left a legacy … Her death has been a terrible moment, we recall this. A year is quite long! A year of mourning. A year of sleepless nights. Such a hard experience and a very rare one. Not many people have had this kind of experience. It is not my wish that anybody goes through this kind of experience. It is something that needs to be prevented. It is something hard. It goes beyond my description.«